Saturday, October 28, 2006

Slave Driver

View from my room at the Hampton Inn at 8:30. I swam this morning, I feel good and it's sunny - beautiful day!

Yesterday I taught two classes at Stitches & Scones and was lucky enough to have lunch again at Kelties (same exact thing, I have NO food imagination!) and it was a wonderful day!

The first class was cabling (Cable Mania, er, Sanity) and we had a blast. I must say that the students in Indiana have been among the best I've taught, and I was very impressed with their ability to speak, chorus-like, in unison. (You haven't lived until you've heard a class of women proclaim, "You Start Every Cable The Same Way!") It's the small things that make life worthwhile.

The second class was knitting with wire - and it was a big class! After the initial kit selection phase, and pieces from Twist & Loop were passed around for everyone's edification, we all settled in to knit a little swatch with wire, just to get the feel of the new (to them) fiber.

I sometimes feel a little like Simon Legree in my knitting with wire class - I try to encourage folks to toss away the need to see good looking knitting while they're learning something (losing this expectation of perfection is the best way to get a beautiful end result - counter intuitive, but true!) and at times my encouragement can be - well - firm. Sergeant Carter in a velvet glove.

Most folks completed their pieces, I felt terrible for the two who didn't get finished, and I knew that if the class had been smaller I would have been able to spend more time with each one - therefore assuring at least a moderate success. It's so hard when you're learning something new, and you've just about got it, but you feel a million miles away from comprehension. That old saw about it always being darkest before the dawn is absolutely true, and you never feel more lost than right before you discover you're on the right path.

Today I'm speaking at a fundraising luncheon at the Oak Hill Mansion, doing some color commentary on a few of my designs from Romantic Hand Knits, Twist & Loop and Men Who Knit.

Knit Sophisticates
I have to laugh sometimes when I'll read a blog or a thread on a knitting chat board where some authority bemoans the lack of taste in a certain garment, the [gasp] gauche-ness of a color combination or choice of project. It's knitting. Say it with me - K N I T T I N G.

We don't knit to make things, we knit to make ourselves happy. If you're standing in the way of someone else feeling good about their knitting, you need to examine your motivations.

My own take on this is that when one feels a need to denigrate others, it's usually a deep seated discomfort, sadness or insecurity. It's like the teenager who's embarrassed by their mom. She hasn't changed, but the kid's become painfully aware that there are levels of cool, and his mom isn't in the level that his friends admire.

I have such respect for the grandma who continues to wear lipstick and rouge, even when her kids try to get her to stop - and I have the same level of admiration for the go-to-hell grandma who NEVER wears makeup, and can't be charmed or cajoled into it by her kids.

I'm perverse enough that when I read comments alluding to the un-coolness of a knitting event, book, project or fiber, it makes me want to get to know it better. (But then, I never sat with the cool kids in high school, either...)

Arbitrary rules of taste - of coolness - is a type of water-on-a-stone dictatorship. It wears away our confidence, little by little, in our own personal style choices.

Learn to question "Cool" - "In" can be an insidious form of authoritarianism.

17 Comments:

Anonymous Toni said...

Ah, Annie, you speak to my soul, I never got a spot at the cool kids table...as for knitting, well, for years (decades!) I bought my Red Heart acrylic and bags of mill ends at Woolworth's on 34th Street (they had EVERY COLOR) before I even knew about 'good' yarns, and still used the acrylic even when I grew into Noro and FDC Valentino, and eventually Bliss and Colinette and Rowan, because if I did not, nobody would have gotten ANY baby blankets (and everyone, absolutely everyone, did, and loved them and washed them through 2 or 3 kids). Does it ever occur to anyone that we cannot all afford to spend $100 on a baby blanket or $250 on a sweater?

Or even that not all the people we knit for get it, either. I have on my lap while I read blogs a poncho OTN in Lion Homespun, the yarn I detest most on earth. My sister-in-law loves it, she picked it out, and that is what she is getting to make her happy, so be it. For her third child and the boy everyone waited years for, I knit a Cashmerino blanket. It got washed and looks like a rug. $100. Moral: do not give hand washable items to a woman who is on her third c-section in five years. She is much too sleep deprived to remember or deal with rules of fancy wools!

My daughter in whom I have indulged my knitting and yarn passion beyond reason has a closet full of Bliss and Rowan sweaters, and her favorite item is a loud, cheap, multicolored, fun fur trimmed poncho, because it makes her look like a "bratz" doll..

I have a sneaking suspicion that the people who look down on those that don't always use 'the best' yarns are the same that need designer labels and trends and pay people off to get into the 'right' preschool...and the same that condescend to me at certain unmentioned yarn shops in the city because I am wearing sweats and no makeup.

Anyway, I am ranting. Happy knitting to all, even if you get your yarn at walmart!

Take advantage of this weekend's monsoon in New York to putter in your stash and KNIT!

Toni in Staten Island

October 28, 2006 10:06 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree with you. What is it that motivates people to
"rain on someone's parade"?
It is just knitting but it's such a great way to express individualism.
I salute anyone who brings a little creativity
into the world!

October 28, 2006 11:34 AM  
Anonymous Pam Kurst said...

You could not have stated your point in a more succinct manner.

I read 'those blogs' and I don't feel good about myself when I do....it's something akin to the way human nature is drawn to looking at a train wreck.

I often ask myself how people can be so mean-spirited; and then I realize that's why there are wars. Humanity will never get along as a whole until we all recognize, respect, appreciate and accept our differences....whether it be religion, cultural, sexual and yes, even something as simplistic as knitting!

Pam

October 28, 2006 2:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

"I'm perverse enough that when I read comments alluding to the un-coolness of a knitting event, book, project or fiber, it makes me want to get to know it better. (But then, I never sat with the cool kids in high school, either...) "

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MY SISTER!! Where've you been all my life!

I know exactly what you mean. Some of the discussion strings or blog entries I read leave me shaking my head and wondering it the writers fully realize how young and biased they sound?

Also has me wanting to get the pattern they're so quick to judge.

Also if they're that eager to be fashionistas then why are they knitting? Trends change faster than a quick change artist. Thus they should be buying the item in question. Also the color or style in question may look horrid on the person it's intended for (I for example am "allergic" LOL to orange/peach/tangarine/most yellows!)

Ok... .diatribe done!

Tina
(vintage53rose at yahoo dot com)

October 28, 2006 3:22 PM  
Blogger Cindra said...

Well, Annie, I thought you were "way cool" today. It was fun to meet and enjoy a small chat and find out how real and "cool" you are. Wish I had had time to see your unique way of knitting. I felt like they were sweeping us out the door.
One of your comments that stayed with me is that every politician should have to knit lace. That is actually a fabulous idea. It shows perseverence (sp?), patience, the ability to follow directions and here is what is really missing - intelligence! Now how do we get this done?
I am now a faithful reader.

October 28, 2006 3:26 PM  
Anonymous Elvira said...

Don't many of the knitting mags dictate to the designer the yarn and color? You spend weeks agonizing over what color to use, and bang, the editor decides it should be vomit green instead of sky blue. Or consist entirely of novelty yarn. Yeah, many knitters out there love to complain about designers, specially those designers who get paid real money by real publications. Methinks it's a bit of sour grapes mixed in with the, sometimes quite legit, criticism of yarn or color.

Some in the knitting world need a serious reality check. As you say, it's knitting. Not saving the planet. Knitting. There appears to be a certain select group of bloggers, who deny seeking fame, who spend every second of their endless spare time searching for something to mock. Maybe they need to look in the mirror next time instead of Google.

October 29, 2006 12:50 AM  
Blogger Bronwyn said...

Annie, while I agree that making fun of designs is tacky, I never shy away from a critique. obviously it must be done in a way that isn't just schoolyard name-calling, but everyone only said nice things about what I designed, I would never learn anything. Not only that, but we are here not only because we love designing, but because we want to make a living at it. So if I read many people saying they can't find the yarn called for, or can't afford it, and thusly will not knit the pattern, that is lost revenue for me and if that happens a lot, no design career for me! I WANT to know if people are put off by the fit, the photography, yarn choice, etc. I may use it anyway, but I want to know its affect on the market. Just my 2 cents. :) You can glean useful information from just about anything.

October 29, 2006 7:14 AM  
Blogger annie said...

Bronwyn,

There are criticism that are critiques, and useful. But there are bullies who masquerade their comments as fashion or style "rules."

In my post I wasn't speaking at all about critiques of a design (mine or anyone elses), but rather about a trend I find of folks simply insulting others' taste, with no redeeming point of view.

Yes, you can glean useful information from just about anything (even if the information you glean is that the informant is mis-informed), but you can't glean useful information from EVERYTHING.

Everyone has a point of view, but in a civilized society we try to express our point in a way that it uplifts the entire argument - not in a way that makes folks feel that they shouldn't be knitting what they love.

October 29, 2006 7:32 AM  
Blogger annie said...

Bronwyn,

There are criticism that are critiques, and useful. But there are bullies who masquerade their comments as fashion or style "rules."

In my post I wasn't speaking at all about critiques of a design (mine or anyone elses), but rather about a trend I find of folks simply insulting others' taste, with no redeeming point of view.

Yes, you can glean useful information from just about anything (even if the information you glean is that the informant is mis-informed), but you can't glean useful information from EVERYTHING.

Everyone has a point of view, but in a civilized society we try to express our point in a way that it uplifts the entire argument - not in a way that makes folks feel that they shouldn't be knitting what they love.

October 29, 2006 7:33 AM  
Blogger annie said...

Bronwyn,

There are criticism that are critiques, and useful. But there are bullies who masquerade their comments as fashion or style "rules."

In my post I wasn't speaking at all about critiques of a design (mine or anyone elses), but rather about a trend I find of folks simply insulting others' taste, with no redeeming point of view.

Yes, you can glean useful information from just about anything (even if the information you glean is that the informant is mis-informed), but you can't glean useful information from EVERYTHING.

Everyone has a point of view, but in a civilized society we try to express our point in a way that it uplifts the entire argument - not in a way that makes folks feel that they shouldn't be knitting what they love.

October 29, 2006 7:33 AM  
Blogger annie said...

wow - sorry - didn't mean to triple post that. Wonder what's up with blogger....

October 29, 2006 7:36 AM  
Anonymous Becky said...

Annie: I really enjoyed that entry. I have copied (and credited!) the last two paragraphs to post on the doorway of my classroom: I'm hoping they will spark some discussion on why so many of these great kids will turn upon someone who ISN'T showing her belly or wearing Uggs or piercing some painful personal area. . . Ah, teenagers. . . but as you point out, the kids don't make up "rule by scorn" all by themselves!

October 29, 2006 7:45 AM  
Blogger Kristi said...

On the flip side I am more suspicious of the things people consider cool and essential, but perhaps I have to be more critical because I can't afford all the coolest things ... and I've never liked looking like a lemming. For example, I am thinking of the tiger stripe yarn that people snapped up at crazy prices, or the pink chibi fad that drove prices up on ebay (while I looked sadly at my broken pink chibi -- I would have sold it at the time if it wasn't broken, hehe).

October 29, 2006 9:13 AM  
Blogger dragon knitter said...

my husband has a different definition of cool. cool is going out with your hair looking an absolute mess, because you didn't comb it (my 14 year old son has issues with that, lol). now, if you comb it first, THEN mess it up, then that's cool. cool is maintaining your personal hygiene. cool is being true to youself. so, see, annie, you're cool!

and i will be that grandma that NEVER wears makeup, no matter what my kids say, lol. i have worn make up twice in the last 6 weeks: for my wedding, and for a halloween party.

October 30, 2006 10:49 AM  
Blogger Cheryl said...

what a gorgeous view! I do love this time of year.

October 31, 2006 7:59 AM  
Blogger negairene said...

I very liked its blog. The place of the photo is pretty, I lives in the Brazil.

November 01, 2006 4:23 PM  
Blogger negairene said...

Achei o maximo seu blog. O lugar da foto Ž lindo,eu moro no Brazil.

November 01, 2006 4:29 PM  

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