Wednesday, February 28, 2007

The Best Thing About A Blog

... is that one has a 24-hour community with whom to share pain and joy.

Last night was hard. Gerry was up a lot (Butkis was his cat) with Gigi, both of them mourning.

Last evening Max told us that it was his school's open house (we'd missed the flyer about it) and Gerry thought we should go, so we did. It was a wonderful respite from our family grief - apparently Max is fitting in well, he has his times of frustration but he's working through them, and he likes his teachers a lot (and they seem to like him!)

Now we have to work on getting him a good friend - he thrives with a good buddy.

How odd to feed just one cat this morning.

Thank you so much for your very kind comments and emails. The knitting community is a cat-loving community, and I can't tell you how much I appreciate the love and good vibes you showered on our family.


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Blogger Ellie said...

Oh, Annie, I'm so sorry.
(This is my first comment, even though I've been following your blog for over a year.)
My heart is with you and your family, and considering everything else that's going on, it must be particularly difficult.
Right now, I'm staying with my parents, finishing my thesis, b/c my husband actually moved the same week you did, to start his new job, and our new life, while I finish school. He gets the new apartment, but I get to spend time with my cat from undergrad, and it's so theraputic.
I'll give him some extra TLC today, for you and your family, and for Butkis.

February 28, 2007 8:34 AM  
Blogger Tracy said...

I'm so very sorry to hear your sad news, and I know just how hard this must be for you and your family. Almost two years ago, I lost my great cat Eliott, who had been with me for 13 years, after a very sudden illness. I still miss him, but I feel privileged to have shared so much joy with him over the years. As much as it hurts now, always remember the joy that Butkis gave you. He will be with you always.

February 28, 2007 8:59 AM  
Anonymous Susan said...

Oh my... I miss a day and look what happens. Will keep you all in my prayers - I too have a very special cat, one who is well trained to sit in my lap while I knit and not attack the needles (except under extreme provocation)He does occasionally get bored indoors while we are asleep, creating Jackson Pollack like string art around the living room, dining room and up the stairs. He likes fingering or lace weight - the balls roll more easily.

But enough about my family - I know how much you are hurting today. I will share with you what my then 8-year old said when we had to have a cat put to sleep shortly before my mother's death: with the wisdom of youth, he looked up at me and said, "I'm glad Munchkin is waiting for Grandma in heaven. She wouldn't like heaven if it didn't have cats in it."

I am sure Butkis is making some angel very happy right now. God bless.

February 28, 2007 11:24 AM  
Blogger DeltaDawn said...

Annie - I didn't mean to use such a strong word as scarred in my last comment - I was nine when my first cat died, and I just will never forget that from seeing her to saying goodbye. Nor will I ever forget the book we were read then - "The Tenth Good Thing About BArney" by Judith Viorst. I keep the copy she signed for me years later and share copies with friends who are grieving a pet. If you can get your hands on it...

I don't envy the task of introducing a new friend - we've just been through that - but I'm happy to report we survived a brief adjustment and now have two happy kitty friends. More good energies your way... Dawn

February 28, 2007 1:28 PM  
Blogger Marietta said...

so sad! mom lost one of her cats via car as well - I am sure Butkis was happier outside rather than trapped inside and tearing apart the house...

February 28, 2007 2:32 PM  
Blogger stitch-dom said...

I'm so sorry to hear about Butkis. He sounds like a very lively fellow and it seems like he had a wonderful life with his people. Your story about Gerry calling the hotel made me laugh. Helping kids through this stuff can be wrenching too. My kids still write letters to our old cat which we burn in the fireplace so she gets them "in smoke letters".

As for Gerry - I certainly hope the diagnosis improves. Back pain is horrible!

February 28, 2007 3:01 PM  
Anonymous Anne in Atlanta said...

It's good you were all able to find some respite - even if just for a bit. It'll take time, and hopefully being so busy will help a bit, rather than making it harder. It's great that your kids are adjusting - that can be such a trying thing also. And yes, the internet can be a wonderful thing - I'm glad folks were able to give you some support even across the keyboard.

February 28, 2007 6:01 PM  
Anonymous MJ in Michigan said...

Thinking of you all today. I had to put my 14-year-old Dalmatian to sleep last week and am still waking 3-4 times a night to see if he needs to go out and pee. I told my 4-year-old niece that Lucky wouldn't be coming home any more but that we could have fun remembering all the good times, when he would give her slobbery kisses and sniff her bottom when she got out of the bathtub. I know you will have memories of Butkis for your family to smile about too. Wishing you all peace through your grief.

February 28, 2007 10:02 PM  
Anonymous Kandace from Rochester said...

Annie - Welcome to MN. I've really enjoyed your site for the knitting tips and the stories, and grieve with you on the loss of your feline family member. I pray you and your family will be able to adjust in the midst of all of the happy and sad changes you are experiencing.

March 01, 2007 1:11 PM  

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