Sunday, April 08, 2007

Eggs, Baskets & Lollipops

I talked with a good friend yesterday who - before she knew our current situation - broke the news to me that someone close to her had died recently of multiple myeloma.

What a coincidence - life is so odd, huh? Her friend who passed was much older than Gerry (he's so young to have this!) and when I explained the situation I realized what a great resource she will be, having gone through this and having done a lot of research herself.


It made me think, though, that when folks are unaware that you're facing a specific life hurdle they tend to be a lot more honest - perhaps even dramatic (although my friend wasn't dramatic in the least!)

However, once they know that they're dealing with a friend in an - altered - situation, they tend to be very upbeat. I totally understand, and I'm the same way - we want to put out a positive, you-can-
beat-this vibe, and it's appreciated!

But it made me ponder this morning (in our downstairs shower, brrr) how rarely you run into the middle ground, how often folks are either Sturm und Drang or Sunshine & Lollipops. And then I imagined the Valkyries singing Sunshine & Lollipops and I snorted out loud. Rinse, repeat.

Then I came upstairs to a bereft little boy who was expecting Easter baskets to be in front of his door, like they usually are. At least I had the wherewithall to BUY something at Ikea (a plastic easter egg filled with Swedish candy) but I totally forgot to take it out of the bin in the kitchen and place it in front of the doors. Oy.

So while he looked downstairs, I slipped them up on top of the built in sideboard in the dining room, and set him to looking all through the rest of the house. Right now they're hidden by the blinding light that comes in from the dining room window in the mornings, but soon they'll be visible, and then the kids will be sated with chocolate and sugar. We're a multi faith family - Jewish and just pagan enough for chocolate.

Today I'll make a trip to the aforementioned SR Harris Fabrics (after checking to make sure they're open on Easter) to check out some slipcover fabrics. I feel like I'm nesting again. But first I'll print out the coupons. I like to get a few projects set up so that when I have down time I can move on to something else that needs to be done.

And that involves working through a redesign for the kitchen. No, we're not going to push into that immediately, but working on the computer calms me - hence the blog entry this morning - and a commenter asked about how I do my ground plans. So here's how I do it...

I have used CAD (computer aided drafting) software, but it was a LONG time ago and I'm sure those apps are light years better now. For laying out a rough ground plan, though, I like to use Appleworks (aka Claris Works)

There's a function in the drawing palette that lets you alter the ruler settings (format/rulers/ruler settings.) I set up my rulers for picas, with a division of 12, so that when I rough in my layout I can see it in "feet" without a lot of extra mental math. It's a quick and dirty way to get my ideas down while I'm ruminating.

And we really DO have to add a bathroom, that's becoming painfully apparent with Gerry as he is right now. We need a bathroom on the ground floor, or else he's pretty much relegated to spending 90% of his time upstairs.

We've met with a contractor, the next step is to rough out how we'd like to lay out the addition (we're adding a few feet to the kitchen to add a bathroom - which will also allow us to redesign the kitchen so that it's more workable and has more 'pantry' space) and then make a trip to Home Depot to look at cabinets, etc. Our pipe dream is to be able to have the washer/dryer upstairs in the bathroom / utility room off the kitchen, but that may be pushing it...


Believe, me, I know it's not the time to start on this. And I'm not saying we will. I'm just saying I may as well get ideas down now. It gives me a break in the knitting.

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Blogger Carol said...

Actually, now IS the time to do the bathroom thing. Think about how, if things go badly, you would feel if you didn't! And if things go well (As I am hoping) then you will have a bathroom! Just don't do a mojor redesign of what you've got. Add the bathroom and get on with it! BTW I AM sending good karma or vibes or whatever your way. May the force be with you!

April 08, 2007 9:46 AM  
Anonymous Nancy said...

Planning and dreaming and working help so much any time, but especially when there's a crisis. (Well, they save whatever shreds of sanity I have left, any way!) Easter is our time of hope, paralleling Spring, and I hope for you outcomes with which you can solidly deal. "Knit on, with confidence and hope, through all crises." -- EZ

April 08, 2007 9:49 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Carol's right about getting on with it. But in the meantime, I'm fairly certain you could rent portable equipment for the ground floor because even if you start next week (unlikely), it won't be finished instantly. Try a medical supply company, the people who have wheel chairs, crutches and so forth (one word or two?). All the best!
Gillian

April 08, 2007 10:33 AM  
Anonymous Nicole from Indy said...

There's never a good time for any remodel project! Just think -- the sooner it is done, the sooner Gerry can use it :)

Sunshine and Lollipops! Funny... I understand that, but just never thought of it that way.

SR Harris... I am jealous. I love that place. My parents live down the road... I miss MN.

April 08, 2007 11:20 AM  
Anonymous Lynne E. said...

You're so right about people projecting upbeat vibes when friends or relatives are ill. Visitors transform when they walk into a hospital room! When a close friend or relative has a serious health problem, it's best to accept the situation and take things one day at a time. There's no way to know what's going to happen in the future, and in the meantime you need to live your lives.

April 08, 2007 11:43 AM  
Blogger Jeanne said...

I lost my Dad in June 2006. Then my Mom was diagnosed with terminal esophageal and liver cancer a month later. She died in September. After living through last year, my philosophy is simple: I'm here today, I'm OK today, everyone I know and love is OK today and today is what matters. I don't know if that helps or not; but it keeps me from being dragged down by the past or paralyzed by the possible future. Just know that I'm thinking of you and praying for a happy outcome.

April 08, 2007 2:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Good thoughts everyday to you; you seem like an amazingly strong person.
My 2 cents, after you go to Home Depot for cabinets check our IKEA. I have heard they have good quality cabinets. Maybe they can also help with the design. Lastly i wish i could make slipcovers. Mary In CT

April 08, 2007 2:53 PM  
Anonymous Pat said...

My husband Martin was first diagnosed with multiple myeloma when he was 48. He is about to have his 56th birthday on 18 April. He would be delighted to correspond about his experiences with the disease and its treatment with you and Gerry if that would be helpful.

While Martin received high quality medical treatment, there is a human side to multiple myeloma and its treatment, where the medical professional were not as helpful. We had to find other sources of advice, help and inspiration.

You and your family have now embarked on a challenging and enriching journey, and some of the things that will help you along the way lie outside the responsibility of the medical profession.

If, by sharing our family experiences, I can help you and your family, I would be delighted to be of service. Please let me know if Martin and I can help.

Pat

April 08, 2007 4:38 PM  
Blogger DeltaDawn said...

Geez Annie - the fun never stops, huh? My first reaction was OF COURSE it's time to start on the house - and starting doesn't mean gutting next week. So much to say, too much for comments. My best energies are coming your way.

April 08, 2007 7:34 PM  
Blogger KBlicious said...

i hope you all had a happy easter and a sweet Pesach! i'm sorry to read Gerry isn't doing well, you guys will be in my thoughts and prayers.

April 09, 2007 5:37 AM  
Anonymous marie in florida said...

man O man Annie; you DO so much! you're inspritation. whatever i knit today, the mantra it's knitted with will be for you. that makes it a good day to begin backyard leaves. last saturday, when i began it my daughter went into labor. she was delivered on April 1st. i think the leaves will be good luckish for us.
hugs and more hugs
OMG my verification is vzvibe...can you belive that? there's some vibes for ya!

April 09, 2007 8:40 AM  
Anonymous polarbears said...

I know you have an old house so you may not have one to spare but I put my laundry in a closet-contractor bumped the back wall out less than six inches to get the depth needed and I don't miss the space in the adjoining room at all.

A downstairs bath is such a necessity for all of us as our knees age even if we're not ill. I've read that it's the most cost effective improvement you can put in a house. Do you have room for a shower too in case stairs cease to be even a once a day option?

Valkyries singing "Sunshine and Lollipops" is the best image!

April 09, 2007 9:38 AM  
Anonymous Barbara Skoglund said...

How about some realistic sunshine?

The Twin Cities are a great place to be sick. I've lived many different places and without a doubt the docs and hospitals here are top notch. The various hospitals and clinics all have different specialties. Depending on the illness, Mayo (only two hours away) may be the best, but for many conditions the best available is in the Twin Cities.

Barbara Skoglund
"who's been sliced and diced by the best"

April 09, 2007 11:00 AM  
Anonymous liz k said...

Dear Annie,

My thoughts are with you. After walking through cancer with a dear friend of mine a few years ago, I know how varied are the strange reactions a person with cancer encounters. My friend said what she wanted was for people to listen to her, to recognize what she was going through and not swaddle themselves in their own anxieties. Sadly, her cancer was a terribly rare and vicious one, and she died at 46, so her tale may not be what you want to hear about right now. But if you do, you can find her cancer journals in her amazing book, "Woman at the Washington Zoo" by Marjorie Williams.

I wish you health, joy, and humor. A reader, Liz

April 09, 2007 1:19 PM  
Anonymous Fiamma said...

Annie - I am sorry to hear Gerry is ill. I am senidng nothing but positive vibed and will send my good yoga chant/intentions to him and you all as well.

April 09, 2007 5:57 PM  
Blogger Jill said...

My dad was diagnosed with M.M. a few years ago and I still remember the shock of hearing "Dad has cancer." Luckily for us they were able to diagnose him at a very early stage and so his prognosis was very good. I hope all the best for you and your family. For all the people that give you lollipops and sunshine I hope that there are a few who can help you find a spark of humor in your dark moments so you can laugh through some of the tears. It's what helped us.

April 09, 2007 6:51 PM  

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