Stoned on Mother's Day!
On Friday I carried home 900 pounds of rock.
Gerry and I acquired 380 pounds in the afternoon, We drove to Leitners, picked out the stone and put it in the car, then drove home and carried it from the car to our backyard on our cart. But 380 pounds wasn't nearly enough.
So Hannah and I picked up an additional 520 pounds later in the day and repeated the whole ritual. Rock is heavy.
Where did all this rock go? Onto our newly leveled area in the backyard, where it was carefully shifted into place and covered with sand, then swept (repeatedly) to push the sand into the spaces between the stones. Then we tramped it down and sanded and swept it again.
We piled up the dirt we'd dug out last week around the edges, and tramped that down, then watered the whole thing. I want to plant shade loving plants around it as grass does NOT want to grow in the vicinity.
It looks good, we're all very proud of our work (I have the most amazing family), and we're looking forward to a less-muddy backyard. We're also amazed that it took SO MUCH STONE to cover such a relatively small area - now THAT'S a lesson for the kids!
On Saturday I celebrated my Mother's Day early, I took Maxie, one of his good friends and Atticus for a wet walk at the off-leash dog run in Minnehaha park (or, as one of my students called it, the "off leash 10-year old boy run")
It was wet, sprinkling and beautiful. The falls were rough & hard, alive, as we walked through the valley down by the river. There were new leaves out, new grass, lots of moss, the air was fresh with a woodsy, rich spicy scent. I wish I could have bottled it!
In several places we had to cross mini-streams by walking over logs, creeping across fallen trees. It was so much fun. Atticus did himself proud, as did the boys.
I wished Hannah was with us, but I was also glad we were just a threesome (I'm not sure if she would have enjoyed the tree crawling as much as the boys did - and as well as Gerry's doing, it would have been beyond his ability...)
Then our "annual" trip to our favorite Chinese restaurant, Little Szechuan, and home where Hannah taught us a new card game (Oh-Kent?) which we LOVED! What a perfect day!
Today the rain is a memory, it's beautiful here in Minnesota - just lovely! Sunny, breezy, a little cool (okay, downright COLD earlier this morning) and it seems the entire world is out throwing frisbees and riding bikes!
I taught. And I loved it! One groovy moment was when one student identified herself as Max's art teacher - so even in the middle of teaching a class I was indirectly connected to Maxie (who was learning his new Ramah at Hebrew School while I was teaching knitting...)
I'm not just blowing smoke, or courting my neighbors, but Minnesota Knitters (and Wisconsin...) are among the best I've met. Even the newbie knitters have such a sense of - presence - in their knitting! It makes teaching more challenging and enjoyable, that's for sure!
The huts where we held the classes were COLD, and eventually we moved outside into the sunny, grassy area to finish up class #1. Class #2 started outside, then we moved inside to take advantage of tables for the chart-reading portion of the class.
I had such a great time - I LOVE the atmosphere of fiber festivals - and wished I'd had more time to walk around the vendors booths. I bought some honey, checked out some handles by Homestead Heirlooms (really great shapes and color assortment!) and some stunning felted scarves by Judy McDowell from Misty Meadows Icelandics (I stopped a woman wearing one of her scarves to find out where she got it!)
Of course, I also checked out Jennie The Potter's booth, and had a nice chat with Joe (Mr. Potter) while perusing Jennie's new, cool ceramic buttons. They're so groovy!
Back home for gifts - a lovely necklace and earrings from the kids and a letter that made me cry (when I was alone) from Hannah. She is a very good writer, she makes me proud. And now I do the resting ritual, me - alone in a chair with my computer - to just sit for a few hours and gain some energy. Standing all day on hard concrete in a large, cold, empty building is hard on the back and legs and stamina. But my pain is minor compared to my honey's new hurt.
Gerry's been having pain on his left side. It started with some tingling on his leg, which moved around to his back. I insisted that we rush over to the doc because it sounded like shingles, which is annoying for most folks, but rather serious for folks who have had bone marrow cancer. Shingles is an infection, if allowed to worsen it can turn into a chronic, painful condition which can be almost impossible to heal in a MM patient.
Infection is the main worry for someone in his condition, we were reminded of that at the Mayo clinic last week. To be so concerned over a silly thing like shingles knocks both of us out of our feeling of complacency that we'd been enjoying.
The doc gave him some antivirals, which he started immediately. Today he says the pain has lessened (it was pretty severe for a bit) but the sensation of tingliness has spread up to his arms. I'm worried, he's worried, but he refuses to go to the ER (which the doc told us to do if the pain worsened) because he says it's not worse, just different.
We get along well, doing gardening, working around the house, and then every now and then there's a reminder that the life we've carved out is uncommon and tenuous, so we appreciate it even more. We hold fear and good fortune together in one breath.
Gerry and I acquired 380 pounds in the afternoon, We drove to Leitners, picked out the stone and put it in the car, then drove home and carried it from the car to our backyard on our cart. But 380 pounds wasn't nearly enough.
Where did all this rock go? Onto our newly leveled area in the backyard, where it was carefully shifted into place and covered with sand, then swept (repeatedly) to push the sand into the spaces between the stones. Then we tramped it down and sanded and swept it again.
We piled up the dirt we'd dug out last week around the edges, and tramped that down, then watered the whole thing. I want to plant shade loving plants around it as grass does NOT want to grow in the vicinity.
It looks good, we're all very proud of our work (I have the most amazing family), and we're looking forward to a less-muddy backyard. We're also amazed that it took SO MUCH STONE to cover such a relatively small area - now THAT'S a lesson for the kids!
On Saturday I celebrated my Mother's Day early, I took Maxie, one of his good friends and Atticus for a wet walk at the off-leash dog run in Minnehaha park (or, as one of my students called it, the "off leash 10-year old boy run")It was wet, sprinkling and beautiful. The falls were rough & hard, alive, as we walked through the valley down by the river. There were new leaves out, new grass, lots of moss, the air was fresh with a woodsy, rich spicy scent. I wish I could have bottled it!
In several places we had to cross mini-streams by walking over logs, creeping across fallen trees. It was so much fun. Atticus did himself proud, as did the boys.
I wished Hannah was with us, but I was also glad we were just a threesome (I'm not sure if she would have enjoyed the tree crawling as much as the boys did - and as well as Gerry's doing, it would have been beyond his ability...)
Today the rain is a memory, it's beautiful here in Minnesota - just lovely! Sunny, breezy, a little cool (okay, downright COLD earlier this morning) and it seems the entire world is out throwing frisbees and riding bikes!
I taught. And I loved it! One groovy moment was when one student identified herself as Max's art teacher - so even in the middle of teaching a class I was indirectly connected to Maxie (who was learning his new Ramah at Hebrew School while I was teaching knitting...)
I'm not just blowing smoke, or courting my neighbors, but Minnesota Knitters (and Wisconsin...) are among the best I've met. Even the newbie knitters have such a sense of - presence - in their knitting! It makes teaching more challenging and enjoyable, that's for sure!
The huts where we held the classes were COLD, and eventually we moved outside into the sunny, grassy area to finish up class #1. Class #2 started outside, then we moved inside to take advantage of tables for the chart-reading portion of the class.
I had such a great time - I LOVE the atmosphere of fiber festivals - and wished I'd had more time to walk around the vendors booths. I bought some honey, checked out some handles by Homestead Heirlooms (really great shapes and color assortment!) and some stunning felted scarves by Judy McDowell from Misty Meadows Icelandics (I stopped a woman wearing one of her scarves to find out where she got it!)
Of course, I also checked out Jennie The Potter's booth, and had a nice chat with Joe (Mr. Potter) while perusing Jennie's new, cool ceramic buttons. They're so groovy!Back home for gifts - a lovely necklace and earrings from the kids and a letter that made me cry (when I was alone) from Hannah. She is a very good writer, she makes me proud. And now I do the resting ritual, me - alone in a chair with my computer - to just sit for a few hours and gain some energy. Standing all day on hard concrete in a large, cold, empty building is hard on the back and legs and stamina. But my pain is minor compared to my honey's new hurt.
Gerry's been having pain on his left side. It started with some tingling on his leg, which moved around to his back. I insisted that we rush over to the doc because it sounded like shingles, which is annoying for most folks, but rather serious for folks who have had bone marrow cancer. Shingles is an infection, if allowed to worsen it can turn into a chronic, painful condition which can be almost impossible to heal in a MM patient.
Infection is the main worry for someone in his condition, we were reminded of that at the Mayo clinic last week. To be so concerned over a silly thing like shingles knocks both of us out of our feeling of complacency that we'd been enjoying.
The doc gave him some antivirals, which he started immediately. Today he says the pain has lessened (it was pretty severe for a bit) but the sensation of tingliness has spread up to his arms. I'm worried, he's worried, but he refuses to go to the ER (which the doc told us to do if the pain worsened) because he says it's not worse, just different.
We get along well, doing gardening, working around the house, and then every now and then there's a reminder that the life we've carved out is uncommon and tenuous, so we appreciate it even more. We hold fear and good fortune together in one breath.







14 Comments:
There's a quote by Mark Doty that I like very much, reminding me to live in the now:
"This is it, what surrounds you, the daily life to which you are much of the time asleep - this is it, and this was it the whole time."
I wish your family full and well-lived days.
I'm glad the fiber festival went well. I had to pass this year - just arrived back from Switzerland and it wasn't going to cut it if I ran out on Wilson so soon again. I'm glad you got to meet Judy - she's a peach and I love her yarn.
I'll be watching for updates on Gerry and hoping that he just irritated some nerves hauling rock.
Is he on Revlamid / Thalidomide? That can cause tingling in hands and feet, which can become quite severe in some people. I do hope it's not shingles.
Ellen's experience in Minnesota has tempted Dale and I to think about moving there as well. Now you are echoing her words. I'm glad you've found such a welcoming home, especially as you deal with all the good and bad stresses you face right now. Here's to being able to focus on the goods!
"We hold fear and good fortune together in one breath."
Something about this phrase touches me deeply. You are an inspiration. I admire the way you deal directly with the bad stuff, while enjoying the heck out of the good stuff.
You and yours remain in my thoughts and prayers.
Lisa C.
With my husband recuperating from 6 week's of chemo and radiation for throat cancer, I read your blog daily and take great comfort in your families strength. I know how scary the future might be and I hope for the best for you and your family.
Tora in Chagrin Falls, Ohio
I love your post title :)
I'm so sorry about your husband's new symptom. My mother is immuno-compromised too and gets shingles that recurs whenever she's stressed or tired. I hope he feels better soon.
I was a little worried at the thought of a heretic being stoned, but it sounds like it was a good thing. The stones look great. Sending good thoughts your way for DH, and for you, too. Caregivers need love, too!
It's so hard to know which symptoms are serious and which ones need can be ignored for awhile. I'd call his doctor and see what he thinks. It's still a relatively new road, and it's hard to know what's a small dip and what's a pothole that can take a wheel off.
I'll be thinking of you all. At least spring's here, and the sun's out more.
No wonder your back was so sore at Shepherd's Harvest on Sunday! I loved your class (I was the one who perked up at the thought of learning how to fix a missed yo and who knew Ruth the massage therapist). Thank you for yourself.
Hi Annie--
I know you are very respectful of Gerry's autonomy. This is one time where it would be okay to get bossy! Insist that he call his transplant doctor ASAP if he hasn't done so already. Tingling could be so many things: medication reaction, serious neurological problem, shingles (less likely if it is both arm and leg, but still possible), overuse... A symptom like that isn't one that lends itself to "wait and see" in otherwise healthy people, let alone in a post-transplant cancer patient. Why wait and worry? Either the doc will say it's no big deal and you can relax, or if something is going on it can be addressed sooner rather than later.
I hope it turns out to be nothing!
Sharon
Annie,
I was one of the cold ladies in class #1 on Sunday. Just wanted to say again how much I enjoyed the class and how much I learned. The class was enhanced by your personality!
I happened across your site and blog afew months ago, by accident. I am a new knitter with no idea how big your name is in the knitting community. I just enjoyed your honest forward blog. I have followed the story of your husbands health crisis and have sent thoughts and prayers your way. Now, after meeting you, the thoughts and prayers will be more directed.
Kayla
Hi Annie,
What Sharon Silverman said. Agree completely, and hope Gerry has already checked in with the Dr. Just sayin' (And, sorry to be so bossy, and in my first comment, no less. Yikes.)
I have a dear friend who has shingles and it can be very dicey, and that's even without having MM. I think there's a test they can do to determine if it actually is that or not. Please keep us updated on this?
I'm one of those lurkers who has gotten brave enough to come out of lurker-dom, at least now and then....
And I loved what kmkat said: "Thank you for yourself" Perfectly stated and I so agree!
I am glad you are loving Minnesota! I complain about the weather (a LOT) but truthfully, I'd miss it if I left. Such a variation in temperature and precipitation is hard to beat! But (sigh) the summer sure does go by fast...
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