Monday, June 11, 2007

Okay... So I'll Ask -

UPDATE

We just got the word that the Mayo Clinic can see us tomorrow. As in Wednesday. We're squaring away babysitting for the kids tomorrow, hopefully we can make that come together.

Worse comes to worse, we can take them with us (but I have a feeling this will be another on of "The Talks" and it's best that Dad & Mom have the car ride home to collect themselves before seeing the kids again...)

The, perhaps, more testing on Thurs & Fri (& Sat?) to determine if/when the stem cell transplant should happen (2-3 months is the estimate) In case of more testing we'll probably get a hotel room for Gerry so I can return home and be with the kids those nights. If only I could split in two.

The general consensus from your incredibly kind emails and posts is that I should ask for help when I need it.

PJ said it best in her comment on my last post:

...make a list of all the things that need doing that are getting in the way right now - meal planning, grocery shopping, car pooling, you know - all the crap. Then enlist friends, community, knitters at the LYS, support groups of any kind and ask them for help.

I have learned the hard way that the asking for help is the hardest thing to do, but that people are so thankful to be asked, given a task, made to feel helpful in what turns out to be a small way for them and a huge relief for you.

It works best if there is one person to coordinate all the helpers and then all you have to do is ask that one time.
As you know, we're new here in the Twin Cities. Folks are great - everyone here has been very kind - but I know you know what I mean when I say there's a certain familiarity one feels they should have before asking for a ride somewhere, or if someone knows of a babysitter (or might babysit themselves...) or could drop off dinner while I'm out of town teaching. Asking is so hard.

The social worker at the University of MN gave us information about a website, lots a helping hands, which coordinates helpers, and after a few false starts I've actually been able to log on and establish a website.

The idea is that as the caretaker for a person with cancer, I'm allowed to establish a private web page where I can post things that our family needs done (rides, meals, babysitting).


We will slowly start developing a group of volunteers who live near us and want to help out in some way. I think it will make coordinating the help that we'll need MUCH easier - and makes asking less uncomfortable.

I'm hoping that it will be a tremendous resource. I don't have a lot of folks to add right now - I have a buttload of friends in cyber space, but not a lot of flesh-and-blood friends in the area. I'm thinking before I actually add someone to my volunteer list I should at least meet them in person (make sure there are no axe murderers lurking - yeah, right...)

If this sort of thing interests you, and you live near-by-ish, drop me a line and perhaps we can get together at a knitting meetup or stitch and bitch. I actually haven't been to any in town since we've moved here, and I'd LOVE to go to one or eight, so let me know where you meet and I'll try to come by and say "Hi!" Perhaps that will allow us to develop an in-person friendship and I can add you to the list of volunteers.

Those of you who don't live nearby - your support and friendship is so needed and so appreciated. It's hard for me to express how grateful I am, knowing I can come to my blog and write about a crappy day, and get a few very nice responses that make me feel less alone.

You have no idea how many times I've edited and re-written this post. Such a flagrant appeal for help is rough to do. As much as you guys think good thoughts for me, I think the same thoughts for all of you.

My great hope for you is that you don't find yourselves in this position.
Or, if you do, that you have the kind of on-line support system that you're all providing to me.

Thank you!

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55 Comments:

Gina said...

Would you consider Blacksburg, Va as close by?

June 11, 2007 9:31 PM  
Barbara said...

Annie, I wish I did live closer and could be of some help.

Please know that my family and I are keeping you and yours in our thoughts that you all come thru this.

I read every post and can only imagine how hard it is to keep doing what you are doing.

Best wishes

June 11, 2007 10:01 PM  
Penny said...

{hugs} i so wish something like this existed 18 years ago but wish more that it wasn't needed. [er, open mouth insert foot. i hope you know what i'm trying to say] {hugs}
i wish i were closer! ok, my shoe doesn't taste to good so i'll stop now. again.. {hugs}

June 11, 2007 10:01 PM  
Anonymous said...

aiunusdear annie,

although i'm based in the seattle area, i would like to offer you any services you and your family might need. For your business, i can help with any knitting or crochetting you might need to accompany your patterns. i would be glad to do anything to free up your time so that you can concentrate on your family. i'm good as acting as a go-between or assistant. my strengths lie in financial matters. if you think i might be able to assist you, please consider adding me to team modesit. just answer this note and i will give you my home phone number and e-mail address. Judy

June 11, 2007 10:02 PM  
annie said...

Penny - your foot is NOT in your mouth. (And I should know, my mouth has toe shaped indentations)

Judy - that's so kind! Want to proof read a pattern? I have a pattern I want to offer soon on a "donation" basis (folks can pay what they like - sort of a shareware concept!) and I need to have it proofed by a few folks to triple check my math... (btw, it's the Emmy Dress pattern...)

June 11, 2007 10:19 PM  
Anonymous said...

Dear Annie,

judy here. i'd love to proofread your pattern, just e-mail it to me at jitterbg at comcast.net.

thanks so much!

June 11, 2007 10:29 PM  
SusanSW said...

Oh Annie, wish I could come out there to help--kidsit, cook or something (tho I don't even do that for my own family anymore!) but Chicago's a bit far away so my donation enabling you--and other teachers--to attend Midwest Fiber & Folk Art Fair & have a place to sleep (honestly the nonsense of it all over $42!!) will have to suffice as my contribution for now.

And I'm not much good right now either--re-broke the foot so had to have an operation last Monday and have to keep my weight off it for 8 wks at least; so, of course, last night (after a little birthday celebration, which included a haircut shorter than yours--I keep seeing Lou Reed in the mirror!--and a nice glass of rose wine with my darvocet) I fell over sideways on the walker and bruised my entire side. I thought I'd cracked a rib or 2 so spent the entire day at the ER today but no, it's just bruising, a shoulder separation, and some cervical neck stuff they took a CT scan of that they think I've had for a while. Lovely. I need to make an appt. with an osteoporosis specialist at the UofChicago too because my bone scan last week dropped way down into the moderate (not mild range) range. Anyway, I'm rambling (blame the vicodin--going back to bed now). Wish I could help you dear. Wish I were as strong as you are and as brave.
hugs and brownies,
Susan

June 11, 2007 10:40 PM  
shoeboots said...

Your post came across wonderfully! I wish I lived closer to help some, but Oregon just is a little too far :) However, I'll keep passing the good juju your way.

June 12, 2007 2:17 AM  
Donna said...

I wish I lived closer so I could lend a hand. Whenever it feels awkward to ask, try to tell yourself that the only way you could screw up asking for help is by not asking at all when you need it (I could take that advice more often myself). Even if someone says "no" right now, they might say "yes" another time. Sending good thoughts your way...

June 12, 2007 6:44 AM  
Lee said...

I like the idea of "Team Modesitt." Count me in. Of course I'm halfway across the country so it will have to be cheerleading and prayer. I would be no good at proofing, I promise.

Please know that we are all thinking of you and do take advantage of whatever help you can find. People really do want to help and often just don't know what to do.

June 12, 2007 7:21 AM  
Ruth in Morris Twp, NJ said...

Annie,
If you belong to a local temple, mention to the rabbi what's going on. Very often, people will help out.

My DD, who lives in Minneapolis, is going through a rough time with depression. Her DH belongs to a hippie-dippie Catholic church, and these lovely folks have provided many dinners,and extra help.

People do like to help, but it's tough asking for it.
Also, any support groups at your hospital?



So, it's worth a shot.

June 12, 2007 7:26 AM  
margie said...

Oh, Annie...my heart goes out to you. As the caretaker of a handicapped parent and sibling, I know the difficulties you're going through. A long-term illness becomes overwhelming and slowly takes over every aspect of your life. And even though you manage to still do the necessary day-to-day things, like working or grocery shopping, everything is still overshadowed by that illness. I, like you, am not one to ask for help and even have difficulty accepting help that is offered unsolicited. But start out small...say, with a baby-sitter. (Heck, if Gerry were well, you'd be getting a baby-sitter so the two of you could go out...right?) Then slowly hand over the other stuff that in the whole scheme of things is not really all that important (housekeeping, rides, etc). My mom died last year and I regret, every single day, that I didn't ask for help so I could spend more quality time with her. Think about it...if the worst, God forbid, were to happen, where would you really want to be? I bet it's not at the dry cleaners or grocery store.

My thoughts and hugs are with you.

June 12, 2007 7:32 AM  
marie in florida said...

i can hear Arlo Guthrie saying "you can't have a light without like, a dark to stick it in"
i'm proud of you for sharing your learning process with out

hug hug smooch

June 12, 2007 8:14 AM  
Anonymous said...

Please don't feel that asking for help is imposing burdens on others. Look at it this way, if you were not so busy and under so much stress, if someone ask you for help, I think you would pitch in too. So it goes both way.
My thoughts are with you and your family

June 12, 2007 8:41 AM  
Penny said...

Thanks.. my toes are starting to taste good, but i'm not a huge fan of gnawing on my socks..

{hugs} also if you want a pattern reading newbie to proof anything feel free. i'm game to try anything.

Hope your day goes well today. My mum just brought her partner [age 70] back home from the hospital (he has pneumonia *AGAIN*) so may his improved health be contagious to us all. :)

June 12, 2007 8:48 AM  
Joanne said...

Hey Annie, there are things that us folk who live far away can do. If you have shopping lists or phone calls to make or whatever, someone long distance can do that for you. Perhaps you should give your Team Modesitt website to anyone (anywhere) who you feel comfortable with, and we will do all we can to make it work.

Care packages for you or for your kids, for instance, might be a good distraction and have a long history with the US Mail. Let us send you our care--and show you how much we're with you on this!

June 12, 2007 9:14 AM  
qusic said...

sending you a load of emotional support from overseas. You made a start ,help will follow, the burden will loose a little weight,be put on more shoulders, as your two ones.....and promise to go out and meet new friends ( in persona) for the hugs...
I send you my virtual ones

June 12, 2007 10:03 AM  
rho said...

well like so many I am not close enough for actual help but if you need a shoulder to cry on or a place to vent I'm here - I even have insomnia so I am up most nights - just leave a note in my blog and I will contact you with my email etc.

Heck I am not even a good enough knitter to offer to help with pattern proofing - unless you want it totally idiot proof when it is done :D

sending hugs and good thoughts your way.

June 12, 2007 10:14 AM  
polarbears said...

I think one of the hardest, bravest things a person can do is to admit they need help. We're so conditioned to say we're fine, we can handle it, but sometimes that's a big fat lie--and we're lying to ourselves as well as to everyone else. You've made a big step putting your need out there. Yet another reason I admire you.

I'm another one who's too far away to provide more than cyber-hugs but I'd like to count myself among the friends you just haven't met yet.

June 12, 2007 10:20 AM  
. . . Lisa and Robb . . . said...

I've been a fan of your design work for a while, but only stumbled on your blog last week. Strange as it sounds, I found your writings about what you've been going through a huge source of inspiration.

A little over a year ago, my partner fell from a ladder and broke his spine. Six weeks in the hospital, paralysis, all sorts of scariness, learning to do the day-to-day stuff with his new levels of ability....It has been a crazy time.

We, too, didn't have loads of local friends. However, when Robb was in the hospital, my co-workers set up a schedule, and took care of so many things that I just didn't have the time or energy to deal with (meals, cats, errands). Now, that things have settled out, I no longer ask for help, although truth be told, I really could use some.

I wonder, though, if I could ask you for something. I wanted to know it I might quote a paragraph from your blog on ours? Your comment about not currently having the kinds of (local) friendships that allow you to bawl all over people expressed something that I've been struggling to say. Heck, the Performance Art aspect of what you wrote pretty much fits our situation, too.

I admire your use of your car for emotional breakdowns. When things were really raw for me, I developed the odd habit of running into stationary objects with my car. Your method is far superior to mine!

Hang in there! I find that in situations of great stress, you've just got to savor -- really taste and enjoy -- the things that are going well.

Lisa Lazar
http://howsrobb.blogspot.com/

June 12, 2007 11:08 AM  
Gingersnaps with Tea... said...

Asking for help is so hard but now that you've done it, things will get easier. There are so many small ways that people will help you (and people want to help, they really do) and it will free you to focus on what really matters. Calgary isn't even in the same country but I am here with long distance support and hopefully in November, you'll meet me at Emerald Lake and see I'm not a crazy, axe murdering, knitwear designer and writer stalking, dpn wielding, nut laden bar but a cyber friend you can count on (and I hope that at least made you smile a little bit). Hugs 'n more hugs!

June 12, 2007 11:12 AM  
Terri said...

Hi, Annie,

I am a lurker and I am in the area. There's a great little craft shop (on the corner by my house!) called Crafty Planet that has Craft and Chat Tuesdays every other Tuesday, on the other side of the River from you. I don't often get to go becuase of my own schedule, and am a little shy in group settings, but the owners are wonderful, wonderful people. Visit them at http://www.craftyplanet.com/. There's also a service called Simon Delivers up here where you can shop online and they'll deliver. My own hubby loves the grocery store, otherwise, I'd use them and never step foot in a grocery store. I don't know that the Yarnery doesn't have a meet up night, I'd bet they do and are closer to you. Depth of Field is a nice yarn store to wander, and Clickety Sticks always has a seat open at their big table in the middle of the store. It feels to stalker-ish to invite you to lunch so that you can have a real-life flesh and bone shoulder to blubber on, but the offer is there if it's any comfort.

June 12, 2007 11:26 AM  
kristi said...

Annie,

If I could send you soup (or just a normal, boring day) through the U.S. mail, know that I would! I'm working on ways to make that happen, though.


Cancer sucks. Feel free to quote me.

June 12, 2007 11:47 AM  
Sarah said...

If you need to get away for a few hours, we have a group in Woodbury on Thursdays at 7 at the Starbucks near wendys and jc penny. Check out http://weknit.blogspot.com/

also has anyone told you about the yahoo group tcknit, it has a fairly large listing of all the different groups meeting in the twin cities.

Good luck and like everyone has said, just ask, it's the hardest thing to do but it just might save you in the end. (oh and knit :D)

June 12, 2007 12:00 PM  
caroncm said...

Annie, You will find the Mayo Clinic to be very well organized (in a positive way). They are efficient about getting testing done and reviewed. The two of you will be in good hands.If I was closer, I'd be happy to help.Not that you need more doctors. Cyndy

June 12, 2007 12:37 PM  
PJ in Berkeley said...

Annie, It's PJ again. Do you mind if I ask the YarnHarlot to put the word out on her blog? She gets a lot of readers, and there are probably a boat load of them in your area. I'd just go ahead and do it, but decided it would be polite to ask first. Let me know via your comments.

June 12, 2007 12:37 PM  
Melissa said...

As always, just email. We've met briefly - I was in a class at Yarnzilla last year, and we met again at the Yarnery. I don't attend any knit nights, because my schedule is not regular, but I can happily drop off dinner anytime for your family.

If you'd like, we could meet at a coffee shop to talk more! email at mgaul at mac dot com.

{hugs]

June 12, 2007 12:39 PM  
susanc said...

Annie:

I sincerely wish I lived closer to you so that I could help out in person. Count me in for cybersupport and anything else I can contribute. I am keeping you in my daily thoughts and prayers along with Gerry, Max, and Hannah. You are truly an inspiration to me, not only as an awesome knitter, but as a strong, intelligent, and caring woman. If there is anything I can do, please give a shout out. At least I can contribute to the loads of people out there who are sending their good thoughts and prayers your way.

June 12, 2007 12:40 PM  
Anonymous said...

Annie: I'm so sorry for the trials your family is currently going through. I don't know if anyone has suggested this, but a small tape recorder with lots of mini tapes might help at these in-depth doctor's appointments. I'm not physically close enough to help but am sending you a cyber hug. Marla

June 12, 2007 12:41 PM  
beth02116 said...

another Cyber-supporter checking in. i'm glad you asked for help! wish i lived anywhere near you. But would gladly make a financial contribution however it is comfortable for you.
hang in there.

June 12, 2007 1:18 PM  
dragon knitter said...

i just wish i could be there to help. or at least cook something for you!

when you did cheaper than therapy, writing my piece was extremely cathartic. i would love to be able to do something for you.

good luck on wednesday

June 12, 2007 1:20 PM  
Anna-Liza said...

Hi Annie,

I've been a fan of your design for a while, only recently started reading your blog. Too far away to be of immediate help, but I'll keep reading in case something comes up that I can do.

I, too, have a really hard time asking for help when I need it. However, one way to look at it is that, by withholding your request, you are also withholding the opportunity for people to be of service. And being of service to each other is one of the great blessings in life. I don't know if you can see it that way when you're right in the middle of such a hard time, but try to keep in mind that you're not "being a burden" or creating some kind of debt. People come forward to help because we want to, we need to, it is a privilege to do so.

And by helping you, we are helping ourselves.

June 12, 2007 1:31 PM  
Shannon said...

Annie,

Glad to see that you are breaking down and asking for help. I know how difficult that can be. When my father was ill with MM my stepmother refused to ask for or accept any help at all, and the toll on her was noticeable. There is NO shame at all in admitting that you can't do it all alone; no one can. There is so much to do physically and then you pile the emotional stuff that comes with it and it's just too much for one person. You're trying to make Gerry as comfortable, happy and hopeful as you can, trying to shield the kids as best you can while not lying to them outright and trying to do all the things you did before "the diagnosis"; it's too much. Take any help that is offered and don't feel badly, people care and genuinely want to be there for you, to do whatever small thing they can to make you day just a little bit smoother and easier. I wish I was close enough to give some real assistance, but unfortunately, all I can offer is a shoulder and an ear. If you want to talk to someone who's been through it all, let me know, I'll give you my phone number or we can chat via email; anything at all I can do long distance, I'm more than willing. You can reach me at: shannwa@charter.net
Good luck and I'm praying for all of you.
XO

June 12, 2007 1:36 PM  
Knitting Linguist said...

I just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you and Gerry and the kids, and, as hard as it is to ask for help (don't I know about that one!!), I'm so glad that you are. I wish I were closer than California! But know that I (and lots of others) are out here reading and wishing we could help out more tangibly...

June 12, 2007 1:52 PM  
Jess said...

Hey Annie,

I live in St. Paul, not too terribly far from you. I'd be more than willing to drop off a meal once in a while if it's needed. I'm sorry there's not a ton more I could do, but I'm a SAHM and can barely keep my own household together some days ;-) If you wanted to meet me, I usually go to the Tuesday night knitting group at Borealis Yarns (Hamline & Thomas). I don't think I'll be there tonight, but next week is more likely.

Otherwise maybe we could meet for coffee sometime during the week at a kid-friendly coffee shop. Let me know. jess at mikk dot net

June 12, 2007 1:58 PM  
Jill said...

Annie-
I'm here for you.
Just email me and we can talk. My house to your house is about 1/2 hour away. I'm dealing with 2 parents with severe memory problems and would LOVE to put my energy into something else. It will help me and help you!

June 12, 2007 2:02 PM  
RC said...

Just so you know... I'm in the Philly area (closer to Delaware) If you are EVER in the area for anything I have an extra room. I am only 20 mins from Philly airport. I can take you Gerry and the kids! I can be your own private B&B!
Plus if you need help with the knitting, I knit AND crochet (and spin a bit). I can do samples/swatch and read patterns. Just let me know, I'd be honored to help.

June 12, 2007 2:02 PM  
Keri said...

Hello Annie!

I think a certain foul-mouthed ;) knitting chica introduced me to your site at JUST the right time. My hubby headed off to Mayo to have his head examined (and subsequently operated upon for a brain tumor) in 2001. 6 years later we are off to our local Relay For Life where he is the honorary chair this year and will speak at the luminary ceremony. His quality of life is better than EVER.

Having said all that, we live in Hudson, just across the border into Wisconsin... a mere stone's throw from St. Paul. My one child is no longer a child. She is 19. And fends for herself for the most part. My only jobs (while they keep me hopping pretty quickly) are as the online fundraising chair for the local Relay, and making truffles for a home-based business my SIL began last summer.

I also do a bit of driving for my husband because he doesn't drive - the one repurcussion from his cancer.

But HEY! I've been where you are now. I know the journey you are walking... and while I do a lot more crochet than I do knitting (don't hate me! ;) ) I think I might be able to help out in SOME capacity. You are welcome to email me and ask whatever you want. Please feel free. I'm here. And Keith would say the same thing. Please ask.

June 12, 2007 2:14 PM  
Kim U said...

I wish I lived nearby and could lend a direct hand - as it is, I can offer many positive thoughts for you all and to let you know if you think of anything that people further away can do, just say the word and I'd be glad to help. I also wanted to say that your post was really well worded - asking for help can be so hard.

Also, I wanted to mention that I think there's a grocery delivery service in the Twin Cities area (my brother used to live there and they used it) - I think it's called Simon Delivers? We use a service like that here in Nashville and it really saves time and effort. There are several knitting groups listed on meetup.com too, if that helps.

June 12, 2007 2:47 PM  
Emily said...

De-lurking to say that you and your family are in my thoughts.

And re: the Mayo Clinic appointment: YESSSSSS!

June 12, 2007 3:02 PM  
Jeanne said...

When my Mother was diagnosed with end-stage cancer of the esophagus and liver last summer, we hired caregivers to help. Ofttimes these caregivers are hired to provide companionship, but they also do household chores and errands. It was such a relief to have someone else handle the cleaning because I didn't have the energy for it while being Mother's 24/7 personal caregiver, financial manager, and grieving daughter. Ask for all the help that you need. Someone will provide it. If I were closer, I would. As I am not within your geographic realm, I'll instead offer my heartfelt wishes for better news, medical miracles, and for helpers to find you.

June 12, 2007 3:24 PM  
knitintensity said...

I live about an hour outside the twin cities, but I am up there at least twice a week, sometimes more. If you'd like to get in touch, leave me a message on my blog www.knitintensity.wordpress.com. I usually go to a knitting group on Wednesday mornings that meets in the Minneapolis suburbs. I also know of a synagogue very close to where you live.

Keep your chin up. There are lots of people pulling for you and your family!

June 12, 2007 3:40 PM  
laurie said...

I love you, Annie.

June 12, 2007 4:27 PM  
Susan said...

Look Annie at all the help you've been offered in just these comments. I'm one of the too-far-away ones so I'm only going to be able to send good thoughts, etc. I've been on both sides of this deal and trust me, there are folks that want to help..they just don't know what to do..or what needs doing. So..help them out *G*.
When I was caring for my elderly and very ill mom, my treat was actually going to the grocery. Out there where there were people. So a very kind person became my grocery helper. She stayed at my house for the hour or so I did my errands or shopping. It was just marvelous. And it gave my mom someone new to talk with..after awhile I think she found me a bit boring LOL

June 12, 2007 6:38 PM  
susan cahn said...

Annie, we recently had a situation in our community and we used the website Lots of Helping Hands that your social worker recommended. It was a huge asset and the outpouring was tremendous. Harriet and I think of you often and we would be more than happy to send a meal to you via a place that delivers nearby. Please let us know how we can help; it would be our pleasure. Stay strong, cry when you need to and know that our thoughts are with you, Gerry, Hannah and Max.

Susan and Harriet, Knit-a-Bit, N.J.

June 12, 2007 7:01 PM  
Sue J. said...

I know how hard it can be to ask for help when new to a community. One can feel so isolated and alone. But asking for help brings out the best in people, and you will be amazed at how many folks are eager to lend a hand. The Midwest is terrific for that. And those of us who are too far away for physical help will keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers every day. Please know that you are not alone.

June 12, 2007 7:11 PM  
Judith in Ottawa said...

Annie, I'm another of your electronic friends, ready to listen. Many of us don't comment every day, but we're out here, holding up our bit of your sky.

Just another thought, since Google can't seem to find what I'm looking for, is to ask the volunteer centre if you can tap into the GM Generators. It's a huge group of General Mills retirees who volunteer in the TC area. They helped out with the conference I attended at the Science Museum of Minnesota last month, and I was very impressed with their kindness and team spirit. Worth the question to see if you can get Hannah and Max some honourary grandparents!

June 12, 2007 7:26 PM  
smittenwithknitten said...

Know that you are in prayers throughout the world. I know myself it isn't easy to ask for help but I had a friend tell me one time that I was depriving them of the feeling of satisfaction of helping, especially when they didn't know what to do or say.

June 12, 2007 7:57 PM  
Having a Knit Fitt said...

Hi Annie,
Hugs to all of you from Virginia. I would be happy to proof read or sample knit if you need me. You can reach me at vadogwood at mac dot com.
Cate

June 12, 2007 8:52 PM  
Kathleen C. said...

Yet another voice adding the "I wish I lived closer". It may seem odd, but sometimes we *need* to be able to help. We *need* to give. As hard as it may be to ask, please let someone give what they can. You're not imposing, you're allowing.
Sign me up for Team Modesitt! Any way I can help I'd like to. You need patterns or text proof read... glad to! Need samples or swatches knit up... no problem! Got correspondance to mass mail... I'd be glad to fold, address and stamp envelopes (though of course you'd have to send them to me first).
Or just an ear to listen (well, eye to read)... always available.
coneryka at jmu dot edu

June 12, 2007 9:41 PM  
TheKnittingTeen said...

I wish I could meet you in person. You seem awesome. (Sometimes I wish someone in my family knits but I'm the only crafty person. It's kind of hard sometimes because they think its easy but sometimes its so hard. I mean I do have certain nights wear I'm hot and sweaty and won't go to sleep until I fix my project!!) Anyways. Good luck with the website and the baby sitter. If I lived closer I would so offer to do it for maybe a ball of yarn! GOOD LUCK

June 12, 2007 10:40 PM  
lauragayle said...

I'm also willing to proof read patterns, or do anything that can be done long distance. If you find yourself in Kansas City, let me know -- I live close to the airport and can pick you up, give you a place to rest, etc.

Sending lots of love and positive thoughts to you and your family, and prayers for your family.

June 13, 2007 6:54 AM  
Grace Yaskovic said...

i'm in NJ but would gladly help however needed, even if its through prayers but can knit, read, anything you need, let me know

June 13, 2007 5:30 PM  
renee said...

Just catching up on your blog (damn bloglines!), so I'm a little late, but just offering my help also. I'm in St. Paul and we did actually meet at the knitting group at Nina's coffee shop when you were teaching and looking for a house. But, if you want to stop by our group again, we usually meet at Nina's on Wednesday nights. We'd love to have you there any time and whatever help you might need, I'm happy to lend a hand.

June 14, 2007 7:10 PM  
dking89511 said...

I don't know if this is appropriate, but all week I have been "bummed" because of something a collegue said about my professional competence. Reading your blog just reminded my of how immaterial that is in the scheme of life. I love my family, I love my life. I will not let the little things impact it. i wish the best to you and your family. If you are ever in Norhtern Nevada and need help, let me know. m

June 16, 2007 3:53 PM  

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